Obituary: Joy R. Seltzer

  • by BAR staff
  • Tuesday November 26, 2019
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Joy R. Seltzer
Joy R. Seltzer

June 21, 1928 — November 6, 2019

Joy R. Seltzer was born in Brooklyn, New York, June 21, 1928 and died in Henderson, Nevada, November 6, 2019. She is survived by her loving spouse, Mary Frances Rosa.

Joy had a career focused on helping and connecting others. As a single mother of two children, Joy worked in high-end fashion retail, becoming one of the first personal shoppers in the industry. Joy became an insurance agent for MetLife, working tirelessly for 30 years making sure that her clients were well-informed and well-served.

Joy had many passions and traveling was among them — including trips throughout Mexico and Europe. A primary interest for Joy, though, was the support and creation of community, especially for women. In the 1980s and 1990s, at a time when such community did not exist, Joy produced elegant, formal banquets with live music and dancing (under the name "Puttin' on the Ritz") to serve thousands in the lesbian community. Celebrating who you were was core to Joy's personality.

Services and a celebration of life will be held Tuesday, December 10, at 1 p.m. at the Columbarium, 1 Loraine Court, San Francisco, CA. In lieu of flowers, donations to the Bay Area Jewish Healing Center ( would be appreciated.