Obituary: Brian Timothy Mailman

  • by BAR staff
  • Wednesday July 17, 2019
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Brian Timothy Mailman
Brian Timothy Mailman

June 24, 1952 — July 11, 2019

Brian Timothy Mailman, born June 24, 1952 in Bakersfield, California, died July 11, 2019 in San Francisco. Raised in Salinas, Brian Mailman refused to be defined by his disease. He struggled for decades against pain and suffering while affirming life and love. Brian was no less hard on himself than on others.

From short-order cook at Church Street Station to working as a sous chef under MOF Chef Paul Duford at San Francisco's P.S. French Restaurant, Brian's love of food and cooking was a lifetime passion. He wrote a column, FWIW, for Empire Kosher and was an columnist ("Slow Food in the Fast Lane"). Along with Maxine Wolfson he co-moderated with over 2,000 members around the world. He was happily active with in its early days.

He is survived by Stephen McNeil, his husband of 30 years, Saipan family of brother Bruce Mailman, sister-in-law Maya Kara, niece Lila Rachel and her husband Broc Calvo, nephew Brian G. Mailman, and cats Rodger Dodger and The Sam. Thanks to caregivers Luana McAlpine and Lucia Hau, the staff of DaVita, especially Eleanor Fabro, Kaiser ICU staff, and Kaiser Drs. Jeffrey Fessel, Jonathan Lieberman, Sumie Iwasaki, and Derek Blechinger, Jazmin and Hung of Westside, PAWS, JCFS Chicken Soupers, Project Open Hand, his Yiddish class, and Openhouse's Friendly Visitor Brian Schneider.

Family may be contacted at

Funeral services were held.

Donations can be made to Danny & Ron's Rescue P.O. Box 604, Camden, South Carolina 29021