'Drummer' redux: famed leather magazine gets a reboot

Any man who traveled within the gay leather world of the late 1970s to '90s likely read or knew of Drummer magazine. The last issue of Drummer was published in 1999, until now. Drummer is back. In early October a new iteration of the magazine debuted.

Leather: Fantasy costumes as kink

Since we're approaching Halloween, when many kinksters meld the erotic with what they wear in unique and alternative ways, this holiday gives many of us the opportunity to delve deeper into donning a wider range of sexual fantasy representations.

Kink Etiquette: Collars, conversation and correct cordiality in kink

Being polite and having good manners will get you a long way in life. The same goes for kink. All manner of sexual outlaw creature might be great erotic fantasy, but even the most full-throttle players need to abide by standards of basic human decency.

10 Tips for Folsom newbies - Navigating the sexy street fair for optimum fun

Folsom Street Fair is just days away. Among the crowd will be throngs of people who have traversed past Fairs multiple times. For them, it's an annual gathering for which they already know the ins and outs.

Finding meaning: The purpose-driven kink life

in considering 'meaning' as a core need, I've reflected on all we do and are as LGBTQ kinksters. Puncture the veneer of the superficial armor of our displayed sexual proclivities; the most satisfying are founded upon a sense of meaning.

Here we go again: Mr. SF Leather 2020 contest crowns kinksters

The Mr. San Francisco Leather and San Francisco Bootblack 2020 contest took place this past weekend. You might be thinking "Didn't we just have this contest in March?" You would be correct. That was for the 2019 titleholders.

Leather: Collective Compersion - Expanding our erotic lexicon

It seems that every day the word compersion makes its way further into daily discourse. While its usage is by no means pervasively common, at least not yet, I've noticed it being uttered verbally or in print much more often lately.

Up Your Alley weekend's packin'

Up Your Alley weekend annually draws thousands of fans of kink, leather, and a cruisy outdoor street fair. The amount of related events has multiplied, ranging from bar nights to dance parties and sex-play events. Strap on your harness and dive in.

Leather Events, July 25 – August 10, 2019

Welcome to the second-busiest leather-kink weekend in the Bay Area, where there's always a lot going on for leather and other kinksters.

Pride is about being authentic: Leather contingent kinks up the annual march

LGBTQ people from all walks of life, including us kinksters, walked down Market Street at Sf Pride – joyful, proud and determined to continue to stake our claim to a happy and equal life.

Shared fantasies: Justin Lehmiller on the science of sexual desire

In this column, I'll share some insights from Justin Lehmiller, an esteemed Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book 'Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire.'

Off to the market we go: International Mr. Leather explored

Every year for decades men have descended on Chicago over the Memorial Day weekend for an annual leather pilgrimage otherwise known as International Mr. Leather (IML), as did I this past week.

Remembering Alan Selby - New GLBT History Museum exhibit recalls leather heyday

A new exhibition opened at the GLBT Historical Society Museum on 18th Street, 'The Mayor of Folsom Street: The Life and Legacy of Alan Selby,' to honor his memory. A large crowd was on hand to welcome this exhibition.

Sex is a smorgasbord

I've noticed how remarkably precise and specific some people have become with their stated sexual identities and options. Those people should teach a class titled How to Turn Off a Sexual Partner in 60 Seconds or Less.

Celebrating women - International Ms. Leather and Bootblack in San Jose

Over the course of my tenure writing this column, I've received feedback that readers often prefer something other than pure reporting on events. As one gentle critic put it, "I prefer you don't just reword an event's program," and they have a point.

What about the sex? - Combining social and sexual scenes

Recently, a young gay man messaged me, stating, "I've tried the leather scene. It's not for me." I asked why. He said, "It's not about sex anymore. It's not even about anything erotic anymore." Was he correct?

Tending the garden: Growing kink communities

On some level, creating community is a numbers game. The more times you try, the more times you succeed. Sometimes you have to throw lots of stuff against the wall to see what sticks.

Leather Alliance's Mr. SF Leather 2019 & SF Bootblack contests

One of the annual projects of the San Francisco Bay Area Leather Alliance is producing the Leather Alliance Weekend, which took place February 28 through March 3. The weekend included the San Francisco Bootblack and Mr. San Francisco Leather 2019 contest.

Think like a marketer

Why is it difficult for some to find erotic connections? I've talked to a lot of kinksters about this and a discussion point comes up repeatedly; the role online life has in finding play partners.

Women take the stage - Ms. San Francisco Leather contest at SOMArts

One of the biggest annual local gatherings for leatherwomen took place this past Saturday, the Ms. San Francisco Leather contest at SOMArts Cultural Center.

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