[Editor's note: Out in the Bay has been airing a mix of previously recorded shows and new content this summer. This is the last rebroadcast of the season.]
Lauren Hough grew up in the infamous, apocalyptic Christian free-love and -sex cult The Family, formerly The Children of God. Her pacifist father had joined the cult in 1970 or so to dodge the Vietnam War. At 18, partly to spite her dad, Hough enlisted in the US Air Force, where she got death threats and her car was set ablaze because she's lesbian.
The Air Force court-martialed Hough, accusing her of setting her own car on fire. The military's "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy, in place from 1994 to 2011, kept her from citing the homophobic death threats in her defense. Her new book of essays, "Leaving Isn't The Hardest Thing," details this and other horrors with scathing critiques on U.S. society, lightened somewhat by her sardonic wit.
Hough reads from her essays and talks about "life in the margins," where so many people in the U.S. dwell, on this week's Out in the Bay podcast and broadcast. After her USAF service, Hough was homeless for a while; was incarcerated briefly; and worked as a bouncer, a barista, a bartender and a "cable guy" before becoming a professional writer.
Hough spent much of her childhood moving around the world at the cult's direction and navigating its ever-changing rules and expectations. "I broke practically every rule," says Hough. Punishment for an angry outburst was to be silent for a full month; another time, when they decided she wore pants too much, she had to wear skirts for a month, even while playing.
"That annoyed the crap out of me, because you can't climb trees in a skirt," said Hough. "They were constantly on me for being a little dyke. They didn't call it that, but they prayed against my homosexual spirit a whole lot."
After five years in the Air Force, Hough had trouble finding work because of her "Homosexual Admission" discharge papers — something she tried to hide then, but now says she'll probably frame. She slept in her car in Washington, D.C., until she finally landed a job as a bouncer at a gay bar.
Some of her essays address our society's "vile" treatment of poor people. Restaurants, she writes, pour bleach on garbage bags to discourage the hungry from rummaging through them for food. Cities outlaw homeless people camping.
"What are you supposed to do in this country if you don't have a home?" Hough asked. "It's in our anti-homeless architecture: park benches with spikes so you can't sit or lie on them. There's an entire industry behind making sure we don't see homeless people. ... It just makes it more difficult for them."
In Washington, D.C. in May, Hough was in a bookstore she frequented nearly 20 years ago to use the bathroom. "They had a pile of my books, and I signed them in the store where I used to kind of take a shower when I lived in my car," she said with a laugh. "It was a profound experience. I had to go over to DuPont Circle and just sit there for a while watching those old guys play chess."
Hear more from Hough on this week's Out in the Bay — Queer Radio from SF. The program airs at 5 p.m. Friday, September 17, on KALW, 91.7 FM SF Bay Area-wide, and again at 9:30 a.m. Saturday, September 18, on KSFP. It is available anytime on Out in the Bay's website.
Eric Jansen is founding host of Out in the Bay - Queer Radio from San Francisco. Learn more and listen at https://www.outinthebay.org/
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