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Finding meaning:  The purpose-driven kink life

Finding meaning: The purpose-driven kink life

By Race Bannon

in considering 'meaning' as a core need, I've reflected on all we do and are as LGBTQ kinksters. Puncture the veneer of the superficial armor of our displayed sexual proclivities; the most satisfying are founded upon a sense of meaning.

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By Race Bannon | June 19, 2019

In this column, I'll share some insights from Justin Lehmiller, an esteemed Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book 'Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire.'

By Race Bannon | April 10, 2019

Recently, a young gay man messaged me, stating, "I've tried the leather scene. It's not for me." I asked why. He said, "It's not about sex anymore. It's not even about anything erotic anymore." Was he correct?


By Cornelius Washington | April 3, 2019

Our Bestie winner in Sex celebrate businesses that help you embrace your desires. We want you to embrace, engage with and utilize them while you still can.

By David-Elijah Nahmod | March 15, 2019

Blow Buddies, a private gay sex club that's operated in South of Market since 1988, could be in danger of closure. The owner is trying to sell the building, which is located at 933 Harrison Street.


By Race Bannon | January 31, 2019

Leather communities have had a longstanding practice of passing down leathers, gear and treasured objects to others as a way of letting a valued possession experience new life with a new caretaker.

By Race Bannon | December 19, 2018

Tumblr announced that their platform would no longer allow adult content. Close on the heels of that announcement, Facebook appears to be following through on much tighter restrictions on sexual content. What does that mean for kink communities?


By Race Bannon | May 30, 2018

But as I prepare to attend what is the biggest men's leather and kink event of its kind in the world, I'm reflecting on some of the events I've been attending this past week here locally in San Francisco.

By Race Bannon | May 2, 2018

Every so often I'm reminded of how vibrant our San Francisco Bay Area leather and kink scene is and how lucky those of us who live here are to so easily be our true erotic selves. This past week was a clear reminder that our local scene is most definitely


By Race Bannon | April 24, 2018

One of the ramifications of badly worded legislation is that often there are unintended collateral damage consequences. Recently, the President signed into law ill-conceived and overly broad legislation referred to as SESTA/FOSTA.

By David-Elijah Nahmod | April 11, 2018

Looking for a hot sex toy, or a hot sex partner to play with? Here, listed for your sexual pleasure, are this year's winners in the Besties' hot and sexy sexual categories.


By Michael Flanagan | February 18, 2018

Late in 2016, the press buzzed with word of tunnels beneath the 900 block of Market Street that provided escape routes from bars. There was more underground about these bars than tunnels, however. They were a hotbed of trade.

By Sari Staver | November 1, 2017

Backed with $800,000 in Silicon Valley venture capital, a queer woman from Oakland is launching a national online platform focused on pleasure education for women and gender diverse people.


By Liz Highleyman | April 16, 2016

California residents can now get PrEP delivered to their door via Nurx, a web-based app that also provides birth control.

By Jim Provenzano | April 13, 2016

Sexy, savvy stud's back at The Nob Hill Theatre


By Race Bannon | January 21, 2015

Before you read any further, I know the title of this column is provocative. Obviously I'm going to talk about PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis), the once a day pill regimen to prevent HIV infection. I also seem to be implying that leathersex is lacking sex

By Jim Provenzano | February 19, 2012

Is your Valentine tired of chocolates and flowers? Does sipping champagne with a strawberry dropped in a fluted glass induce an eye-rolling response?


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